Have you ever heard that before? A lot of time when we are young we feel we can say what we want to who ever we want just because we can. I have always lived with the feeling that once you have said something you can apologize and thats that but one you have said it, it is there and can be remembered at the worst time.
Proverbs 11:9 — An hypocrite with his mouth destroyeth his neighbour: but through knowledge shall the just be delivered.
Think of that: you can either give knowledge or you can set out to destroy someone. When Pam and I got married I would refuse to argue with her. For one thing, we are joined for life and for another, anything I might say in anger could seriously hurt our relationship. She did seem to like to argue at times (and i did say seemed to!). I would just walk away and start doing something. After all, I knew we would be together for life — plus, she is my better half.
Matthew 9:15 — And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
So if the word of God is telling me that Pam and I are one then why would I say something to hurt myself? So what if you’re still young and have not found that special someone yet? Think about the bridges you can burn with other people. I found from experience that sometimes the bridges you burn you might need to go back over again and chances are once you have burnt them then they will not be there when you need them.
Proverbs 11:12 — He that is void of wisdom despiseth his neighbour: but a man of understanding holdeth his peace.
So instead of putting your two cents in you need to hold your peace. There may come a time you will be glad you did because that individual that you smarted off to or put down might be the same one you need to bail you out some time.
Proverbs 15:1 — A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
A soft answer. But then again are you able to control yourself where you can give a soft answer? Or are you a person that no matter what there is something negative in your spirit to where you are not able to be kind to others (but think others should be kind to you).
Proverbs 15:2 — The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness.
A person’s words can destroy or it can build up. I have known people that no matter what is done they are so negative. It almost seems that they’re miserable and want to make everyone else around them miserable too. For these people I hold my peace and pray for them. I’m not saying I am perfect — not for a long shot — but I will be perfect some day. These people needs our prayers more than anything. My advice would be to be men and women of peace that people can see God through you.
You ever notice that if you squeeze a tube of toothpaste that you are never able to put the contents back in? It is the same way with your words: you can apologize but they have been planted and a good chance they will grow.
So what do you do once you squeezed the tube? Is it possible to undo that much damage? Yes, it is possible but you need to be patient and let other people see that you are actually sorry for your actions. Sometimes this is not something that happens overnight. A lot of us made mistakes when we were young but this did not stop us from working to get back on our feet and in time others have learned to put there trust in you.
Proverbs 16:23,24 — The heart of the wise teacheth his mouth, and addeth learning to his lips. 24 Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.
Look at the two scriptures above: it is possible for a man or woman to be able to change but they have to want to change. Look at Proverbs 16:24: your words can be as sweet as honey and it can make you feel better. Your own words and attitude can not only tear others down but it can tear you down to. Use wisdom in your daily speech.